The Man Cave on….Kindness – Senior Planet from AARP
Kindness is contagious – and wonderful for giver and receiver. Try it and see.
I take compliments wherever I can get them, so when the young woman at the convenience store said, “You are rocking that bathing suit,” it first gave me a smile and then led to a quick chat.* She made my day with her comment, so when I went to my car, I grabbed one of the books I’ve written, signed it, and re-entered the store to give it to my new friend. She surprised me again, this time breaking into tears and saying, “I’ve been working here two years, and no one has ever given me a gift.”
Kindness Counts
Two strangers, two acts of kindness, and two people feeling better about themselves. Both initiated acts of thoughtfulness without ulterior motivation, except perhaps to brighten our days. It’s no surprise that research studies show a clear link between initiating acts of kindness and improved feelings of well-being and self-esteem.
So why aren’t there more acts of kindness? Often, it is because people underestimate the beneficial impact of even the smallest gesture. If you are one of those people, I challenge you to give compliments and praise to strangers you interact with. Then watch them smile.
I’ve seen even the grumpiest, saddest-looking people brighten up from the simplest gestures on my part. (And yes, I’ve encountered a couple of people where no amount of engagement could get them to smile or even nod. But I’m glad I tried because you never know what another person is going through.)
If you think you are too busy on a certain day to think of others, consider what the Dalai Lama has observed: “Be kind whenever possible. And it is always possible.”
Go Big on Kindness
How about larger acts of kindness? Number one would be helping others in need. This might include assisting someone with a disability with grocery shopping, yard work, or transportation. Other areas to channel your time where you can really make a difference include:
- Giving your time to children in need of mentorship and companionship, such as through Big Brothers/Sisters or Boys and Girls Clubs.
- Spending a couple of hours with those in turmoil: it could be a friend who is depressed or a neighbor who has gone through a divorce or lost a loved one.
A Kindness Story
Years ago, I offered my services to an organization that assisted blind individuals in spending more time outdoors. I took groups hiking to different locations and helped with transportation. Looking back, it not only gave me a sense that I was making a difference in their lives and that they were enjoying the excursions, but I also brought my children along. I like to think that early exposure to sharing a strength—my knowledge of the best hiking and cross-country skiing trails—is a simple way to channel your energy to help others while having a good time. I hope my kids learned a valuable lesson.
Kindness in Action
Want more reasons to add acts of kindness into your daily lives? Here are a few:
- Research shows kindness is contagious. In a sense, the good feeling you get when you are the receiver is one you want to share.
- Helping another person gives one a sense of purpose.
- When giving kindness, you break the cycle of focusing too much on yourself.
- Strengthens relationships.
*Now I’m sure the young woman who commented on my bathing suit meant to make a 70-year-old man feel good rather than being 100% sincere, but I’ll take it!
YOUR TURN
What random act of kindness made your day – and someone else’s? Share your story in the comments!
(Michael Tougias’ latest book with St. Martins Press is In Deep Water: A True Story of Sharks, Survival and Courage. www.michaeltougias.com)
Kindness is contagious – and wonderful for giver and receiver. Try it and see.
I take compliments wherever I can get them, so when the young woman at the convenience store said, “You are rocking that bathing suit,” it first gave me a smile and then led to a quick chat.* She made my day with her comment, so when I went to my car, I grabbed one of the books I’ve written, signed it, and re-entered the store to give it to my new friend. She surprised me again, this time breaking into tears and saying, “I’ve been working here two years, and no one has ever given me a gift.”
Kindness Counts
Two strangers, two acts of kindness, and two people feeling better about themselves. Both initiated acts of thoughtfulness without ulterior motivation, except perhaps to brighten our days. It’s no surprise that research studies show a clear link between initiating acts of kindness and improved feelings of well-being and self-esteem.
So why aren’t there more acts of kindness? Often, it is because people underestimate the beneficial impact of even the smallest gesture. If you are one of those people, I challenge you to give compliments and praise to strangers you interact with. Then watch them smile.
I’ve seen even the grumpiest, saddest-looking people brighten up from the simplest gestures on my part. (And yes, I’ve encountered a couple of people where no amount of engagement could get them to smile or even nod. But I’m glad I tried because you never know what another person is going through.)
If you think you are too busy on a certain day to think of others, consider what the Dalai Lama has observed: “Be kind whenever possible. And it is always possible.”
Go Big on Kindness
How about larger acts of kindness? Number one would be helping others in need. This might include assisting someone with a disability with grocery shopping, yard work, or transportation. Other areas to channel your time where you can really make a difference include:
- Giving your time to children in need of mentorship and companionship, such as through Big Brothers/Sisters or Boys and Girls Clubs.
- Spending a couple of hours with those in turmoil: it could be a friend who is depressed or a neighbor who has gone through a divorce or lost a loved one.
A Kindness Story
Years ago, I offered my services to an organization that assisted blind individuals in spending more time outdoors. I took groups hiking to different locations and helped with transportation. Looking back, it not only gave me a sense that I was making a difference in their lives and that they were enjoying the excursions, but I also brought my children along. I like to think that early exposure to sharing a strength—my knowledge of the best hiking and cross-country skiing trails—is a simple way to channel your energy to help others while having a good time. I hope my kids learned a valuable lesson.
Kindness in Action
Want more reasons to add acts of kindness into your daily lives? Here are a few:
- Research shows kindness is contagious. In a sense, the good feeling you get when you are the receiver is one you want to share.
- Helping another person gives one a sense of purpose.
- When giving kindness, you break the cycle of focusing too much on yourself.
- Strengthens relationships.
*Now I’m sure the young woman who commented on my bathing suit meant to make a 70-year-old man feel good rather than being 100% sincere, but I’ll take it!
YOUR TURN
What random act of kindness made your day – and someone else’s? Share your story in the comments!
(Michael Tougias’ latest book with St. Martins Press is In Deep Water: A True Story of Sharks, Survival and Courage. www.michaeltougias.com)
